“Those only are happy who have their minds fixed on some object other than their own happiness: on the happiness of others, on the improvement of mankind, even on some art of pursuit followed not as a means, but as itself an ideal end. Aiming thus at something else, they find happiness by the way.”
— John Stuart Mill (philosopher and economist)
ew things are as devastating as caring for a child with a serious illness or disability. Yet, increasingly, these children can lead quality lives, lives that include the love of family and friends.
When these situations do arise, it's critical that all members of the family receive counseling to help them handle the additional stress. If the stress is not handled appropriately, the demands of caring for a sick or disabled child can prove too much for some couples and families to handle. Support groups, religious institutions, professional counselors and others can help family members cope. And remember:
omedian Rita Rudner once declared "Women used to marry older men because they were mature. Now the theory is — men don't mature, marry a young one!"
Jokes aside, more hookups than ever are occurring between older women and younger men. In fact, almost one-third of women between ages 40 and 69 are dating men at least 10 years younger, according to a recent AARP poll. Some reasons behind the trend:
he cyber world has provided major breakthroughs in the treatment of many people with severe phobias. Specifically, virtual reality therapy is proving itself a useful tool in the treatment of problems such as agoraphobia, in which a person is fearful of leaving his or her home.
Virtual reality can be used as part of a desensitization therapy. The person is gradually and frequently exposed to the thing he or she fears in a virtual environment, as part of a gradual process to overcome the phobia. The idea is to change the person's attitude about the phobia, teaching them to confront the fear, gradually tolerate it and then overcome it.
This differs from previous treatments that focused on relaxation alone and took much longer to overcome the patient's anxieties. Hypnosis and both behavioral and cognitive therapy also are often used as part of therapy to treat phobic patients.
Some institutions now use a combination of virtual therapy and traditional therapy. For example, in one program, students who had arachnaphobia (an irrational fear of spiders) were treated with a combination of virtual spiders and real models of spiders; these students reported a much greater improvement in their phobic reactions than those who received counseling only or no treatment at all.
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